if you’re waiting for help
waiting can be one of the hardest parts.
not because nothing is happening -
but because everything still is, and you’re expected to cope in the meantime.
this page exists for the space between asking for help and actually receiving it.
unrekked is not therapy.
it’s not a replacement for professional care.
it’s just somewhere to hold yourself together gently, while support is on its way.
about waiting lists (and why they exist)
mental health services are there to help.
the people working in them care deeply.
waiting lists exist because:
demand is high
resources are limited
care needs to be prioritized safely
none of this means you don’t matter.
being on a waiting list doesn’t mean:
your pain isn’t real
you’re not struggling “enough”
you should just cope better
it simply means you’re in a system that has to balance many needs at once.
what waiting can do to your head
while you wait, you might notice:
your anxiety getting louder
your mood dropping
your sleep getting worse
self-doubt creeping in
thoughts like “I should be coping better than this”
this doesn’t mean you’re getting worse.
it often means you’re holding yourself up without enough support.
waiting is not passive.
it takes effort.
what unrekked can offer while you wait
this page won’t:
diagnose you
replace therapy
rush your process
tell you to “fix” yourself
but it can:
help quiet your nervous system
give your thoughts somewhere to go
help you get through heavy days
support you whilst you’re waiting, or between appointments
help you feel less alone during these times
think of us as supportive scaffolding, not treatment.
things that can help a little while you wait
you don’t need to do all of these.
pick one - or none.
if your brain is loud
use the haven (breathing, tapping, tracing)
Try one thought at a time (at the bottom of our quiet library)
Write it out in Get It out without consequences (at the top of our teen space)
if your body feels tense or restless
trace something familiar
scribble pressure out
move rooms or step outside briefly
if everything feels heavy
take one rebuilder step
read you’re not broken (part of our quiet library)
see our read-only bare minimum packs (part of our self-help hub)
if you’re struggling socially
use how to cancel without explaining yourself (part of our teen space)
read you’re allowed to change your mind (at the bottom of our teen space)
none of these are cures.
they’re just ways of making the wait more bearable.
if you’re between sessions or check-ins
it’s common to feel:
unsettled after opening things up
worse before you feel better
unsure what you’re “meant” to do next
you’re not failing if:
you don’t reflect perfectly
you forget what was said
you can’t practice techniques every day
you’re allowed to rest between doing the hard work.
a steady reminder
waiting does not erase your progress.
struggling while waiting does not mean therapy “won’t work.”
it just means:
you’re human
you’re in a hard place
you deserve support now, not only later
if waiting turns into feeling unsafe
unrekked cannot support emergencies.
if you feel like you might hurt yourself, or you’re in immediate danger:
go to emergency contacts now
and reach out to a professional service in your country.
asking for urgent help is not “skipping the queue.”
it’s responding to your needs.
you shouldn’t have to white-knuckle your way through the wait.
you’re allowed to borrow calm from here until the support you’ve asked for can meet you properly.
you’re not behind.
you’re in between.